Mondays and Wednesdays. Those are our days, the ones during which Hatchling (Chicky's younger brother) has some sort of scheduled "Other Activity." Those are the days when Chicky and I are guaranteed some girl time.
Accordingly, those are our Itchy Issues days. Trying to talk about the myriad of Itchy Issues "when we get a minute" just really wasn't working. We never got much of a private minute, and when we did, it was weird to suddenly just leap into a loaded conversation. Consequently, we didn't talk about these important issues nearly as often or in as much detail as I would have preferred. So, I did what any logical lady would do-- I scheduled.
I decided that when Hatchling went to his activities on Mondays and Wednesdays, Chicky and I would devote that time to talking about Something Important. I hoped she would be onboard with this idea or, at least, would not be horrified by it.
On Monday, things went well. I asked Chicky if there was anything in particular she wanted to start off talking about, and when she declined to come up with an idea, I jumped in.We read some of the Greatest Book Ever Written (It's Perfectly Normal-- the link is on the right side of the page), and talked about it. It was a little challenging, as I decided to start with one of the "itchiest" of topics-- sex-- but the conversation went very smoothly, Chicky listened closely, and I think she learned a lot.
On Wednesday, Chicky brought up the plan herself! She confirmed that we were going to have some more girl time that day, and then was quiet for a second. I asked her if there was anything in particular she wanted to talk about. "I knew you were going to ask me that, so I was thinking about it," she answered. "I think I want to talk about boys."
Calloo! Callay! She's into it! Like any other reasonable human being, she finds it kind of awkward. But she's certainly down with having these conversations.
I think we're on the right track.
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